Can I Be Your Sista?

 

Being a hero puts black women in a position of being a saviour, protector and glory seeker but never in need of being protected or celebrated just for being us!

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So, you ask, when will that narrative change? We say, when we change how we see, meet and greet each other. We are home grown from the womb, but we so often look outside of ourselves and each other for our ideals, aspirations and ultimately our identity.

 

Being an Onyx Yaya means being a joy to others and basking in the glory of others, Sistahood at it's finest!

 

Time to explore our Joy

 

Joy means...when we have mastered the art of living in our Joy we begin to see and hear things differently, the once negative comments of our black co worker become the words of a woman in pain. The rant of a back in the day Sista on her social media are no longer presumed to be attention seeking but lead to a message that say 'are you ok?' can i help'! We have all done it and had it done to us but does that make it right? Grandma's voice alert 'two wrongs do not make a right'.

 

 

Ok, what does it mean to be a sista!... What does Sistahood look like for you?

When surveyed black women, this is what they said...  

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Q1. What does being a Sista/having Sista's mean to you? 

Looking for a sister for many of us can be difficult; past hurts, lack of time to socially commit or just not knowing who we are so we don’t know what we want/need from another person.  The women surveyed resoundingly expressed a need for support, like-mindedness, encouragement and loyalty.  What are you looking for? 

 

Q2. Where did you meet your closest Sista's? 

We meet our dearest sistas; at home within our families, at school juggling our “hard knock lives” phase, lastly at work where our curls loc over a coffee or the office night out. 

 

 

Q3. What characteristics do you expect/need from a Sista? 

When characteristics are on the table, we all come with both virtues and flaws.  However, when we are looking for qualities in another, we only identify the positives like honesty, compassion, love and kindness as expressed by our respondents.  Look back at Q1!  These characteristics match our interpretation of what a meaningful sista relationship involves.  Honesty = Loyalty, “stand by me and tell me the truth”. 

 

Q4. Would you consider meeting Sista’s online? 

68% of you said YES!!!!!!!  We hope and pray lockdowns are behind us but we should embrace the new ways to make connections and keep in touch.  Let’s utilise all things that support our growth individually and as a collective. 

This forum will endeavour to provide that. 

 

Q5. Would you consider being a Sista as part of a mentorship program? 

Surprisingly 89% of all respondents said they would take part in the Onyx YaYas mentorship programme so watch this space.... 

Join the forum here to add your view. 

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https://freeonlinesurveys.com/s/gWGnjPqE